Changing Your Name After Divorce

Here are some tips and insights on changing your name after a divorce.

When I got married, I changed my last name to my husband's. Now we are getting divorced and I want to change back to my maiden name, how do I do that?

Many people that change their names when they get married understandably want to have their names changed back upon divorce. In most states it is pretty easy to ask the judge hearing the divorce proceedings to enter a formal order that will restore your maiden name back to you. If your divorce is finalized and contains a court order regarding your name change, that is all you will have to do. You will need to get a certified copy of the court order as proof of the name restoration. You can then use this copy of the court order to get your name changed on your identification cards, bank accounts, magazine subscriptions and anything else that you want your name changed on.

If your divorce is finalized and does not contain a court order that changes your name back to your maiden name, you should check to see whether you can get the court order changed to include such language that would change your name. Some states allow this even if the divorce has been finalized. As an example, if you live in California, you would have to file an Ex Parte Application for Restoration of Former Name After Entry of Judgment of Order, otherwise known as FL-395. If the judge signs your request, then you would get a certified copy and use that as the evidence needed to get your name changed wherever you want it changed.

If your divorce papers do not show a request for a name change and you cannot have it entered into the court record, you will most likely still be able to restore your old name. If you have some documentation that has your old name on it, such as a birth certificate or passport, then you shouldn't have much worry. Indeed, some states require that you only start using your old name again and request that your name be changed on all of your personal records.

You are far less likely to run into problems when restoring a previous name that you used before marriage than if you want to take on a completely new name. However, there may still be some paperwork barriers that you have to jump over in order to get everything changed to how it should be. If you are a recent immigrant or cannot find appropriate documentation of your old name, you could face even higher barriers.

I got divorced and I changed my name back to my maiden name. Can I now also change the name of my children to my maiden name?

Many courts have traditionally held that the father of a child has the right to insist that the child continue to use the father's last name as long the father continues to fulfill his duties as a parent. Although this traditional rule is still used by many courts, some jurisdictions are changing the way they approach this issue.

Under current laws and trends, a court may order a child's name to be changed to the mother's maiden name when it is clear that doing so is in the best interest of the child. Courts will look to a number of factors when making this decision such as the age of the child, the strength of the mother-child relationship, how long the child has used the father's name, any negative impacts that the child would suffer if the name change was ordered, and any benefits to changing the name (such as the mother re-marrying). Courts will need to balance these factors against the strength of the father-child relationship. However, what it all really comes down to, as it does in many court decisions about child, is what is in the best interests of the child.

However, even if you do end up with a court order that changes the children's names to your own maiden name, you cannot change the legal relationship that exists between the father and the children. Also, changing names will not change any rights or responsibilities of either parent when it comes to visitation, child support payments, or inheritance or intestacy rights. These changes will only come about if a parental responsibility is changed by a court order, such as a modified custody agreement, or if the child is adopted by a stepparent.

If you are planning on getting remarried and your new spouse is going to adopt your child through stepparent adoption, part of that adoption process can be a name change for the child.