Decide What You Want Before Seeing a Lawyer

That said, it's best not to ask your lawyers to start writing up a draft or final agreement until the two of you have settled on its essential terms. You should put those terms in writing -- either in a written outline or a draft agreement you create yourselves. A prenup prepared by a lawyer who isn't working from terms you've both agreed on is likely to be one-sided and adversarial. If you provide your lawyers with an outline or draft prepared by both of you, the whole process -- and the final document -- will be more balanced.