For birth parents, adoption attorneys can help craft an effective adoption plan. It is important that each set of parents has separate and independent counsel, however, to avoid the possibility of a conflict of interest. Birth parents have important rights and legitimate concerns, and an experienced adoption attorney can help ensure that those rights are protected, that all questions are answered, and that the birth parents make an informed decision about the placement of their child. The following questions can help birth parents start thinking about some of the important issues. Reviewing the answers with an attorney is an important next step in the process of making an adoption plan for the child.
Why do I want to place this child for adoption?
Is this my own, free-will decision or is someone else (like my parent or significant other) influencing me or forcing me to make this choice?
Does the other parent agree with the decision to place this child for adoption?
Do I want to choose the parent(s) for my child? _______________________
What kind of parents would I like for my child?
Married or single _________________________
Gay or straight ___________________________
Number of other children in the family __________
Dual-career or one parent at home ____________
Their reasons for wanting to adopt
Do I want a relationship with the adoptive parents during the pregnancy?
Do I want the adoptive parents to be in the delivery room? _______________
Do I want a relationship with my child after the adoption? ________________
How often do I want to make contact? ______________________________
Mail or e-mail ______________________________________________
In person _________________________________________________
Do I want the adoptive parents to keep me informed, without my initiating any involvement?
Other questions to ask prospective adoptive parents:
Questions to ask my attorney: